Don't be a lawnmower mom

July 11, 2025•2 min read

You've probably seen them lurking around the school! Or maybe you have done some of this before... it's okay, when you know better, you do better!

In schools we call these HELICOPTER or LAWNMOWER parents. I like the term lawn mower because the visual gives a better representation of what is happening. These are the parents that literally jump in to remove any obstacle in their child's path. They don't want there to be any resistance, any challenge, or any difficultly for them to encounter. Their precious child should have an easy life full of opportunity. GAG ME!

What I wish these parents knew is that they are STEALING the opportunity for real growth and learning to occur! When children are given opportunities to struggle, explore challenge, and make mistakes - that is where their real evolution happens.

And the worst part? Constantly saving your children in times of challenges sends the indirect message that they cannot handle it on their own. They start to feel that they are inadequate and need someone to save them. I KNOW THIS IS THE LAST THING YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO FEEL!

So next time they come home from school upset about something that happened - stop - think - breathe - and let them figure it out on their own. Be there to listen, love and support. But do not jump in and save them. They will become independent thinkers who learn how to handle a variety of situations through their own experience.

This may be the hardest thing to do as a mom - but it is the best way to raise responsible, independent children who will be adults you love hanging out with.

You've got this! Sending a big cyber hug!

~Audra

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Audra Phelps

I am a mom of 3, teacher and school administrator. I have seen a lot of good and bad parenting come through my classroom and office - and I have also been an energy-depleted mom looking for a better way to parent. After leaving the LDS church, I knew I wanted to raise my kids differently than I was raised. But I had no idea where to start, no one to mentor me, and no resources specific to this transition. I understand the frustrations and the reasons why we resort to parenting tactics that are more damaging than we like to admit. I will share with you what I have learned through raising my own kids, and observing the affects of different parenting styles on the students I work with. When we know better, we do better - and I am here to help you learn a better way to raise independent kids without the guidance of the Mormon church, and while rediscovering your authentic self.

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